Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by shesheyan » Wed Apr 18, 2018 12:07 pm

A very religious aunt tried to convince my mother that D&D was satanic but she didn't buy it. What my mother saw was her son playing with four other friends and having fun with make believe stories.

One time, we were playing D&D in the kitchen (instead of the basement). We had two chandeliers on the table and a friend had brought a long sword for ambiance. Jehovah witnesses showed up at the door on their usual monthly route to try to convert us. When they saw the set up and D&D books they left immediately. They stood in front of the house for 15 minutes praying. After that we never saw them again... I guess we were black listed. My mother was happy not to be bothered by them anymore.
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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by Sturm » Wed Apr 18, 2018 1:00 pm

shesheyan wrote:
Wed Apr 18, 2018 12:07 pm
After that we never saw them again... I guess we were black listed. My mother was happy not to be bothered by them anymore.
Probably the european ones would not have been discouraged by so little :lol:

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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by Tom Bulls Eye » Wed Apr 18, 2018 4:23 pm

Watching from Denmark the "it's all satanics" hysteria in the US, back when I was a teenager in the 80'ties, was extremely funny. It's a book and you tell tales and roll dices, FGS.

So really, the issue of guilt only came up when girls couldn't understand why boys were spending time with nerdy stuff rather than with them. That was a bit embarrassing actually, back then as a teenager, to admit that there were better things to do than sit at a girlfriends house and sip tea, while her mum/dad was running back and forth to check that things didn't get out of hands.

These days, my gaming group consists of one attorney (myself), one CEO of a software company, one high school teacher, and one engineer. And when we don't meet for gaming, we play soccer or watch FC Copenhagen home matches. And our wives still do not understand, but graciously consent to our boyishly behaviors. And the best part - we try to pass it on to our children.

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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by shesheyan » Wed Apr 18, 2018 6:09 pm

Tom Bulls Eye wrote:
Wed Apr 18, 2018 4:23 pm
These days, my gaming group consists of one attorney (myself), one CEO of a software company, one high school teacher, and one engineer. And when we don't meet for gaming, we play soccer or watch FC Copenhagen home matches. And our wives still do not understand, but graciously consent to our boyishly behaviors. And the best part - we try to pass it on to our children.
I married a gamer-girl raised with three bothers. Problem solved. :lol: :lol: :lol: ;)
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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by timemrick » Wed Apr 18, 2018 10:28 pm

shesheyan wrote:
Wed Apr 18, 2018 6:09 pm
I married a gamer-girl raised with three bothers. Problem solved. :lol: :lol: :lol: ;)
My wife was introduced to RPGs (both tabletop and LARPing) around the same time I first met her. She was thoroughly hooked by the time we started dating.

Now we're raising two second-generation gamers, whose reaction to hearing about the '80s panic would probably be "people are stupid," or something to that effect.
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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by Morfie » Thu Apr 19, 2018 7:44 am

I have not played D&D since 2012.
I don't have the time, energy, nor creativity especially, to be involved in the fan projects, like Threshold magazine.
I wanted to teach myself Photoshop/Illustrator to learn to make maps like Thorf does.
I started a couple of projects that were within my capabilities, but they have not been worked on for a long time.

My guilt lies with NOT being involved.

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Re: Do you ever feel guilty being involved in D&D?

Post by Kythkyn » Fri Jun 08, 2018 3:16 pm

xoronthran wrote:
Mon Jul 24, 2017 11:50 am
Hello fellow Mystaraphiles. I have been struggling for a long time with guilty feelings whenever I spend time on D&D. My family, non-gaming friends and probably most of society don't have a high opinion of gaming and judge it as immature (Peter Pan syndrome?), a waste of time and only for losers. So I have hidden my "dirty habit" for a long time.
My whole household and almost all of my friends game. My Husbutch and I have been RPing together for as long as we've been together (almost two decades!) I try to get people interested in gaming, and have brought many friends into the wonderful world of gaming over the years.

I don't think you should feel guilty (IK I'm late to the discussion), but instead reframe the thought. People have hobbies and that's perfectly valid. Yours is different from, say, Fantasy Baseball or stamp collecting or whatever the kids are doing these days, but that doesn't mean that it's any less valid. And really, it's only a waste of time if you're not enjoying yourself while doing it. Life can be sucky sometimes, having a healthy, creative and imaginative way to decompress should never been looked down upon
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